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Today is another two-for-one day here on the blog: the word ‘hiding’ came into my mind this past week and of course I thought about it and came up with some stuff here, too in addition to my poem.
All too often, I’ve felt like I’ve run and hid myself away from the world. I know I did that a lot to escape from bullying, alienation, insensitivity, cruelty, and being frozen out. In those hidden places I used to retreat into books, music, movies, tv shows, and fiction writing. But over the last few years, when I’ve retreated into those hidden places, there was nothing waiting for me there but my thoughts and feelings.
I know I spent a lot of time, probably too much time with books, music, movies, tv shows, and writing fiction. But when I started using writing to get my thoughts and feelings out of my head to where I could see them with my own eyes, I began to lose touch with the other things (books/music/movies/tv shows/writing fiction). I feel like I can’t really settle down and get into things as deeply as I could before. I feel like my mind keeps telling me to focus on my own thoughts and feelings and not to run away from them.
But I’m not running anymore. But it seems I can’t hide anymore either. So what I think I have to do now is create a new way of doing things. Because right now my mind is telling me if I try to get back into books and stuff, that I’m abandoning my recovery. I know that’s bullshit but my brain is fucked up in a lot of ways and it takes time, a lot of time in some cases, to change the way I think and feel about something. Because I have to tell myself a hundred times NO ONE will come at me for getting into books and stuff, and if by some stupid chance someone does, fuck them.
I know in the past I ran and hid because of overload, an overload of thoughts and feelings that I couldn’t let out in any way. I had no real outlet for this as I’ve always tried not to spew out all that I want to say because I’m like a spigot that gets stuck in the ‘on’ position when I start to talk. Hence the reason I give myself two pages typed double-space Times New Roman fourteen-point font here to write and no more to do this.
But now I realize this is yet another issue I have to face in my personal recovery: I can’t go back to the way I was. I’ve known this for a long time because as I’ve said before, once you start asking questions you might not like the answers you find, and sooner or later you have to deal with them. There is a voice inside me that says I’ve dealt with so many of my answers and now I just need to organize all of them into my book projects.
Yet anxiety and fear still rear their ugly heads along with my fucked-up ADHD (attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder) brain that makes focusing a challenge.
So what do I do?
Take it one step at a time.
Identify the problem.
Ask the questions.
Work through the answers
Tell the asshole-voice in my brain to fuck off.
And start to deal with the possibility I won’t be able to retreat back into my blanket fort and just block it all out like I used to do. That I will have to get it out of my system once and for all then hopefully, see a better way forward.
But I’m mourning the loss of that retreat, and it’s not an easy loss to deal with. The old saying of ‘you can’t go home again’ is real and for me it means I can’t be the person I was, and I can’t run and hide anymore.
I have a lot of catching up to do, though. I’ve denied myself so much because of the thoughts and feelings that my mind keeps shoving to the forefront for me to deal with. I have to tell myself not always being with those thoughts and feelings is okay and that NO ONE will have a problem with it, or if someone does they can just fuck off.
Because what I’m looking for are those stolen moments of getting away from the pain, from the icy anger, the screaming matches I had to listen to, the awful words that could never be taken back. I need to learn how to let myself get into things again without letting something pull me out.
Most of all, I need to learn that it wasn’t wrong to run and hide, and immerse myself in my imagination and things instead of talking shit out. Because in the past I couldn’t talk shit out like I can now. But just because I can talk shit out here in my writing doesn’t mean I can’t get back into my imagination, into things that make me happy, indulge my curiosity, and make my heart soar.